Dating with no commitment
I truly believe that a lot of couples don’t have what we have, but a lot of those couples still have more commitment…and therein lies the rub… See, I edited Sophie’s letter for brevity (really, I did!
), where she mentioned how her relationship started…seeing each other once a week, then twice a week, then three times a week.
We almost never fight, but when we do it’s always about the bigger issue: our future together. I’ve told him that I’ll wait and believe he’ll be worth it.If he doesn’t want to marry you, it’s time for him to let you go. Only some version of “I’m not ready,” or “I’m not sure”. What you don’t want is to be the woman who holds on, hopefully, giving him everything he wants and sacrificing everything that you want. I know someone who has spent 7 years – her childbearing years – waiting for her boyfriend to propose. If you’re willing to be that woman – the one who waits forever for the day that never comes, then that’s your prerogative. We get along great, lots of affection, she is pursuing me as much as I'm pursuing her.On our second (most recent) date, we were back at my place, very drunk, things were getting hot and heavy but she didn't want to go any further (smiling and telling me it would all happen in good time) which I was fine with.